The Man Whisperer

It seems like he’s over it. I don’t mean that in a harsh way but if he was super interested he would try to hang out with you. I’d continue on the path you are on now. If you never hang out, oh well. If you do then great.

There are a few ways to go about it… You can fb him and just say hi if you see him online or even send him a message. Or my good old pocket trick, text him and say “where you at XYZ place today? If not, I saw your doppleganger.” That will help get a convo going. To initiate a friendly hangout, ask him to come along with you and a friend to a movie or something. Having a 3rd party there keeps it in the friend zone. Since he did something really nice for you at camp say something like, “the movie is on me. it’s another thank you for what you did.”

I don’t know the rest of this question but I say go for it. The worst that can happen is he doesn’t feel the same and you move on.

First off, I’m a girl.

I think he does. He is clearly making it obvious by touching you/your hand. Spend more time with him. Make it obvious you feel the same and maybe he will stop being so shy and really make a move.

This is a great question. He clearly felt more than you did. I’d say something like, “I had a good time. You’re a really chill guy.  Thanks for an enjoyable evening.” And then when he tries to make plans for another night just be busy but be super nice about it. Eventually he’ll get the clue.

Or you can lie through your teeth. Say something like, “I had a really good time but I am actually now seeing someone. I’d love to hang out with you as friends though. Let me know if you want to hang out some time. :)”

Facebook him. Say something like, “I heard you live in the area, we should get drinks sometime. Idk about you but I could use a familiar face from school :)” Or have your mutual friend set up something where you’ll both be invited and you can see him again.

The worst thing that can happen is he says no. Ask him. Be casual about it but just ask. Say something like, “hey, want to grab dinner on Friday?” if he says no, don’t push it. Again, the worst that can happen is he says no.

Be more outgoing. Your shyness can make a guy think you are unapproachable. If you see someone staring at you look up from under your eyelashes and give a cute little smile/smirk. That will let a guy know you’re interested and looking back at him with the same intent.

It sounds like he regrets his decision to break up with you. What do you want to happen?

It sounds like he isn’t interested. Move on and just treat him like a co-worker.